A recent phone conversation between Jacob and his cousin, Bella.
Jacob: Hi Bella.
Bella: My dad is going to take us to a food store all by ourselves.
Jacob: Do you know what I'm doing?
Bella: We're going to the food store (restaurant).
Jacob: I'm plussing.
Bella: Isn't it going to be fun?
Jacob: Do you know what ten plus ten equals?
Bella: He's going to take us by ourselves.
Jacob: (After some maternal prompting, begins to understand what Bella is saying.) Wow. That's awesome.
Now Bryan comes to the phone and has a conversation with Ian about how they're going to the food store by themselves with his mom. Meanwhile, Ian is having a conversation about Bryan's trucks. I love the straightforward self-centeredness of a child. The grown-up version is more subtle. Many times, especially early in our marriage, Chris and I have gotten into an argument when the real problem is that he's having a conversation about "trucks" while I'm talking about "restaurants". It still happens now but with time we've learned to clarify one another's positions before bringing out the heavy weaponry.