I'm constantly and irrationally on the lookout for subtle issues that my kids might someday reveal in therapy as the symbol of their maternal wound. I keep Bryan's hair longer than David's or Jacob's because it's slightly curly, and I think curly hair on little boys is so cute. Last week, it was haircut day. I put Bryan on the bar stool and it suddenly struck me that this had Mommy wound potential - "She gave my brothers cool soldier haircuts, but I had to have long, floppy hair."
Me: Bryan, do you want a short haircut like David and Jacob, or do you want me to just cut yours a little?
Bryan: (with enthusiasm) I want a pirate haircut with the front part going over my eye like a eye patch.
Me: (No signs of a wound, so manipulate him into the haircut you want.) David and Jacob's haircut takes longer.
Bryan: I want the one that takes shorter.